Showing posts with label Ambition. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ambition. Show all posts

Saturday, July 30, 2016

Life's Purpose

I just saw this video the other day - Oregon to Patagonia.  I like it and what it made me think about (and maybe I was thinking way too much, but I've read a few related books and scriptures lately that got me thinking more about the message here)!  It's interesting and inspiring - live intentionally, do what you love, make things happen, don't just let life happen, act and don't be acted upon.  What do I really want to do or need to do?  ;)  More importantly, I wonder, what is the right balance....

In some ways the life portrayed here seems somewhat selfish?  Of course - this was just a year, and I can't judge his heart or reasons or purpose or options - of course it's better to be out exploring the world and bettering yourself than sitting at home.  He was doing good along the way, too (even in inspiring others that don't know him with the video); travel and caring to learn about others opens us up to that, but how do we find the right balance for living our lives proactively, setting our goals and working towards them and waiting on the Lord and doing His will?  Who is really in charge of our lives?  How do we live courageously, proactively, and humbly, selflessly?  Being responsible and routine may not be so bad - maybe some of the purpose and point of life is steadiness, but even in our habits I do think we need to be intentional and choose our life and live it fully.

Maybe these ideas contradict and I'm making no sense, but I wonder if sometimes our goals or desires keep us from something else the Lord wants us to do and be?  Is it possible to be too focused or stubborn that we miss something else that might be more important?  How can we be selfless and still loyal to our goals?  How do we best strive to improve and make the most of life while being humble enough to give it all up when and if and as we have to?  Do we have to?  How does it work? ;)  How do we balance responsibilities, desires, talents, hobbies, and the Lord's will in our life?

What's the difference between fun, joy, purpose, and meaning?  What should we be pursuing here on earth? growth? learning? becoming?  How do we find the proper balance between that intense focus and trying to accomplish something, recharging our batteries, doing something we love, and selflessly giving our lives to the Lord?
Thoughts?!

I don't think we can judge anyone else's purpose or life (so I hope that's not how this sounds), and I think there are many ways to find the right balance in life.  We are each so different, but I found these talks and thoughts helpful to me in thinking about these questions:

As President McKay said, "Man’s chief concern in life should not be the acquiring of gold, or of fame, or of material possessions. It should not be the development of physical prowess, nor of intellectual strength, but his aim, the highest in life, should be the development of a Christ-like character."

Sunday, April 10, 2016

Why am I here?

Even with all the joy and hope that I've found in the scriptures and life lately, there are still hard days and I wonder sometimes - Why am I here?  What am I doing?  Particularly lately I've felt like maybe I could and should be doing something more somewhere else?  This is mostly in regards to my ward and Church service, but a few others things might fall into the category.

That's why I was SOOOO grateful for a very sweet testimony today that helped me understand my place now a little bit better.  ;)  A guy in our ward talked about serving his mission in Tonga.  He served for a time on a very small island where he knew everyone's name and no one was interested in listening.  He loved being a missionary, but wondered if his time might not be better spent somewhere else.  Why had the Lord sent him there?  Surely there were other places he could be making more of a difference.  As he thought and prayed and worried about this he received an answer from the Lord who said, "I brought you to this island, without other distractions, so that I could spend time with you!"  :D  How sweet is that!?  ;)

I believe that wherever we are the Lord truly does want to spend time with us, but the bigger issue (and as this brother pointed out since returning from his mission) is us making time for Him!  I think this is always important, but there may be certain times in our life when we either need a little more time with the Lord or He is specifically inviting us to not worry about a lot of others things and just spend time with Him!  I feel like I've had a lot of time on my hands lately - some I've used well, some less well, but my great desire truly is to spend this time with Him (whether that be in the scriptures, in prayer, in the temple, in service, in His beautiful creations, with His other children...)!  I know this brings the greatest happiness and direction and purpose and I'm very grateful for the reminder....that that's why I'm here.  ;)

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

You Snooze, You Lose

Lately....I feel like there has been a little bit of snoozing and losing in my life.  :)  From missing breakfast and morning scripture study for a few extra minutes of sleep, to not hiking Timp because 3:00 am is really early, or not buying a townhouse because I'm scared to move forward (I didn't realize how much I liked the option until it was gone), or just making decisions in general.  Thinking about some of these things lately has helped me realize that life, decisions, relationships, commitments, etc. are messy.  They can be hard, but getting up and moving forward is better than snoozing and losing.  :)

I think this is somewhat related to an interesting discussion I had with a friend lately.  Making decisions can be hard.  Sometimes too many choices make it even harder.  I'm reading an interesting book lately called The Paradox of Choice that explains the opportunities that freedom and choice give us, but at the same time the immobilizing effect too many choices can have on some people.

Here are a few other interesting articles:



Again, somewhat related, this is an interesting talk by Elder Bruce C. Hafen (August 1979) about dealing with ambiguity and uncertainty and making choices - On Dealing With Uncertainty:
"It seems to me that the most productive response to ambiguity is at level three, where we not only view things with our eyes wide open, but with our hearts wide open as well. When we do that, there will be many times when we are called upon to take some action at a point where we think we need more evidence before knowing what to do. Such occasions may range from following the counsel of the Brethren on birth control to accepting a home teaching assignment. My experience has taught me always to give the Lord and his church the benefit of any doubts I may have when some such case seems too close to call. I stress that the willingness to be believing and accepting in these cases is a very different matter from blind obedience. It is rather, a loving and knowing kind of obedience."

This one is wonderful too, by Elder Henry B. Eyring (March 1982) - A Law of Increasing Returns:
"The simple fact is that there is a God who wants us to have faith in him. He knows that to strengthen faith we must use it. And so he gives us the chance to use it by letting some of the spiritual rewards we want most be delayed. Instead of first effort yielding returns, with a steady decline, it’s the reverse. First efforts, and even second efforts, seem to yield little. And then the rewards begin, perhaps much later, to grow and grow."

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Act Upon This Land As For Years

I LOVE this article!!!!....from the August 2014 Liahona - Act Upon This Land As For Years.  It explains so well many thoughts I've had about finding my purpose in life.  You need to read the whole thing and tell me what you think about finding your purpose and following the Lord's direction.

I liked the points about wandering (we've seen it in many dispensations), the importance of doing something today, and acting like we'll be here for years (again taught in many instances previously), and getting involved.  The Lord knows best!  His timing is right.

I know that "God's divine influence can guide us toward His plan for our life!"

Chocolate helps too....  :)


Monday, October 14, 2013

Stuck

Have you ever felt stuck?  That's kind of how I'd describe some things for me at the moment - unmotivated, holding pattern, waiting for something, temporary.  It can be hard to move forward when you're waiting for something - I partially don't even know what it is I'm waiting and I don't have full control either.  That's hard.  It' reminds me of this little video from my childhood:  Winnie the Pooh and the Gopher

     "Are you stuck?"
     "Oh no....just resting and thinking and humming to myself."
      ....      "What's your problem?"
     "First thing to be done is to get rid of that bear.  He's gumming up the whole project."
     "...He is the project!"

I can't explain all the reasons that I feel like this describes the situation exactly, but it does....and it makes me laugh and "hum to myself" instead of cry.  :)

The other day while walking around Temple Square I heard one of the sister missionaries ask a tour group as they were standing by the Seagull Monument, "Do you have any crickets in your life?"  :)  Do you know the story of the miracle of the seagulls?  They saved the pioneers' crops from being eaten by the crickets one of the first years the pioneers were in the Salt Lake Valley.  Those faithful people lived right here in my neighborhood, 165 years ago.  They fasted and prayed and Heavenly Father sent the seagulls to get rid of the crickets and save their crops.


That reminds me of this article in the Deseret News - the miracle of the cancelled fishing trip.  Life is full of unexpected changes, cancellations, and LOTS of waiting (I was reminded by my sister who is nine-months pregnant that we're all waiting for something).  :)  But we can choose our destiny and move forward in faith.

And we just need to move one day at a time.  As Elder Christofferson teaches, "I think it's not by chance God has created us in a way that we have to have daily physical sustenance."  We must turn to God for our Daily Bread.  We must look to Him and have faith in Him and remember Him as the source of our blessings.

Here's an interesting and timely article, The Key to Immediate Happiness, that has helped me think about the importance of getting unstuck, moving forward and "unpacking my bags."  I think I also need to go re-read A Single Voice.  :)

Sunday, September 15, 2013

Motivation

I don't know if it's the time of year and not being in school or what, but apparently August/September is the time when I start searching for motivation in my life.  What am I doing with my time and my life?  What are my goals?  I realize that no one else can motivate us to do anything.  Motivation and desire come from within.  They can be strengthened by the encouragement of others, but ultimately no one can make us do anything.  It's easy to be lazy, but I've found in my life that happiness comes when I'm busy doing something good.  As I've been searching for motivation lately, here are a few pieces of inspiration I found:

Recently we studied the words of President Lorenzo Snow, Faithful, Energetic Service in the Kingdom of God, that have been a good reminder and inspiration to me.  He said, "Knowing our religion to be true we ought to be the most devoted people on the face of the earth to the cause we have embraced."  We have the truth!  All we should want to do is share it!  There's some motivation.  :)

Another wonderful reminder is this April 2010 message by President Henry B. Eyring, Act in All Diligence.  I'm inspired by many sweet videos and examples shared on the new website, Hastening the Work of Salvation, including this one, My Work and My Glory.

A couple more wonderful talks/thoughts that have reminded me recently of the importance of diligence and discipleship include a talk by Elder L. Tom Perry given in October 2000 entitled Discipleship.  He reminds of us the importance of cleaning well the baseboard and if we're going to leave anything undone have it be in the center of the room.  :)  Another motivating and inspiring Lorenzo Snow lesson coming up is Church Leadership and Selfless Service.  Brother Russell T. Osguthorpe just taught in a CES fireside about the importance of being disciples, having pure motives and giving our will to God.

In his talk during the Priesthood session of General Conference in April 2013, President Dieter F. Uchtdorf said, "When God works through us, no one and nothing can stand against us....You have your own special contribution to make, and God can magnify that contribution in a mighty way.  Your ability to contribute is not dependent upon your calling in the Church.  Your opportunities for service are endless.  If you are waiting on the sidelines, I encourage you to get in the game.  Don't wait for a particular calling before you become fully engaged in building the kingdom of God....you are already called to the work....Rise up to your true potential...and you will be a force for good."

And from a recent Bible Video, the Savior teaches to Seek Ye the Kingdom of God.



So, here are some goals that will help me stay motivated and get to January!  :)
- Finish the Doctrine & Covenants
- Read the Four Gospels over the holidays
- Sign up for a marathon by the end of the year
- Find a service opportunity before the end of the year
- Finish my indexing goal (2000) before Thanksgiving
- Buy a house by March
- Follow the Spirit in blessing and helping someone each day

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Time - Priorities

I have been thinking a lot lately about time and how I use it.  We are all blessed with the same number of hours and minutes in a day and can choose how we use them.  We have different responsibilities and obligations to meet within that time, but it's really up to us how we prioritize and spend this incredible resource....whether that's working, serving, resting, playing, teaching, giving, learning, progressing, waiting, sitting, thinking, sharing, caring, enduring, loving, laughing.....and the list goes on.  Many things compete for our time, which is why it's important to have goals and plans, so it's not idled away.

There are many lists written about successful people:
A common theme of success centers around how people use their time, particularly their discretionary time.  I read a great book not long ago that reinforced this point as well - successful people don't have time to watch TV or sit still really - they spend that time learning or helping someone else.  They do sleep, they do plan meaningful leisure activities, they spend time with people building relationships, and they even exercise, but in order to do all of this they seem to have set clear priorities that help them use every minute effectively.

There is SO MUCH good in the world.  I'm amazed (and frankly, sometimes overwhelmed) at all the opportunities to serve and bless and give and learn.  There are so many wonderful, uplifting resources.  You could spend DAYS trying to catch up on all of the wonderful Mormon Channel interviews and videos, Mormon messages, resources for youth and teaching...not to mention the scriptures and words of the living prophets.  And before you can even finish looking at all of those there will be a lot more amazing things to read and learn and watch (and these are just a few things I've noticed lately - I'm sure there are many others).  "If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things (13th Articles of Faith)."  I wonder how we could ever have time for anything else.  :)  And then there are wonderful, uplifting blogs and ideas and opportunities for serving in the community and our neighbors everywhere we turn....and even new scripture mastery scriptures to memorize!  :)

President Spencer W. Kimball once said, "My life is like my shoes--to be worn out in service."

Doctrine & Covenants 123:13, 17 teaches "...we should waste and wear out our lives in bringing to light all the hidden things of darkness, wherein we know them; and they are truly manifest from heaven--These should then be attended to with great earnestness....Therefore, dearly beloved brethren, let us cheerfully do all things that lie in our power; and then may we stand still, with the utmost assurance, to see the salvation of God, and for his arm to be revealed."

Last week in Relief Society we studied some of President Lorenzo Snow's teachings on this topic.  Here are a few quotes that I loved:

"We have to exert ourselves....Remaining idle without putting ourselves into action is of no use."

"Where the Lord plants us, there we are to stand; when he requires us to exert ourselves for the support of these holy principles, that we are to do; that is all we need to trouble ourselves about; the rest our Heavenly Father will take care of."

"This work in which you and I are engaged can only prosper and be forwarded through the blessings of God upon our faithful and honest exertions and our determination to accomplish the labors for which we have come into this existence.  When we look back upon the experiences through which we have passed, we easily understand that our prosperity has been dependent upon our honest endeavors to accomplish the work of God, to labor in the interest of the people, and to rid ourselves as far as possible of selfishness....we can well believe that our future progress will depend upon our determination to do the will of God under all circumstances and the aid which He shall give us."

Elder Christofferson taught in a 2010 talk entitled, Reflections on a Consecrated Life, that "true success in this life comes in consecrating our lives -- that is our time and choices -- to God's purposes."  He quotes from Man's Search for Happiness:  "Life offers you two precious gifts--one is time, the other freedom of choice, the freedom to buy with your time what you will....Every day, every hour, every minute of your span of mortal years must sometime be accounted for.  And it is in this life that you walk by faith and prove yourself able to choose good over evil, right over wrong, enduring happiness over mere amusement.  And your eternal reward will be according to your choosing."  This is kind of what it's all about!

It's not enough to not be doing bad things....we must be "anxiously engaged in a good cause, and do many things of [our] own free will, and bring to pass much righteousness (D&C 58:27);"  That's who we are and what we should be about!  We can't run faster than we have strength, but the Lord will strengthen us and magnify our efforts as we have a desire to serve Him and use our time to bless others and build His kingdom.  I know He blesses us and helps us as we are willing to do His will.

Being idle is a pretty serious problem and we're commanded to "refrain from idleness (Alma 38:12)" and to "cease to be idle (D&C 88:124)."  We should avoid apathy, laziness, procrastination and slothfulness.  Here are a few other references that teach the importance of being anxiously engaged and choosing the best thing, not just the good and better thing.

I believe that we all have unique talents and opportunities and the responsibility to bless others and do good.  The Lord needs each of us to be the best that we can be and use our time and set our priorities in a way that will help others to know Him.  There is lots to do, but He will bless us as we give our time and talents to Him and His work and His glory.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Claustrophobia vs. An Open Heart

I grew up in a small town (about 30,000 people) on a small island (nearly 600 square miles) - you can drive around O'ahu in about three hours. It was wonderful! People have asked me before if I felt claustrophobic at all. Never! I loved where I grew up....and didn't know anything different! :) It probably helped that we visited the mainland every summer. I enjoyed the chance to visit family and explore other places, but loved coming home to the "rock in the middle of the sea."

Ironically, the last couple of years of my life, when I have seemingly been the most free - having finished graduate school, driven across the country twice, lived on the East Coast, traveled a little bit, and enjoyed some wonderful job opportunities, I've thought more about this idea of feeling trapped or claustrophobic. It might be that as I get older and have seen more places and opportunities I somehow wonder if I'm in the "best" place.....it gets hard to choose, commit, settle down. :) I admit I've felt "trapped" a little bit at times. I don't like to feel trapped; I think that's one reason I love to travel and explore new places and learn new things.

As I've been thinking about this lately, I have been inspired by some wise words from my parents about the importance of having an open heart. I think that makes all the difference in how we experience life and how we feel about the choices we make and how we move forward. As long as our heart is open and we are consistently seeking guidance from the Lord and following the Spirit, we move forward and do our best and don't worry about the rest. We don't need to worry about what anyone else thinks or worry about past decisions or create artificial barriers for ourselves that might make us feel trapped, but move forward in faith (see D&C 6:23). Basically, it's the idea of letting go and trusting (see Trust, Let Go...). I think this may come easier to children, which might also explain why I never felt claustrophobic growing up in Hawaii.

I really like Elder Gerald N. Lund's 2008 talk, Opening Our Hearts. He expresses well some of the things I've been thinking about lately. I also like Dr. Lanae Valentine's 2004 BYU Devotional entitled Removing Roadblocks to Revelation. She says, "When there are blockades between your heart and the will of your Heavenly Father, you will have difficulty choosing in accordance with God's will." She also quotes President Benson who said, "The great task of life is to learn the will of the Lord and then do it."

I think my parents are neat examples of this - they lived many places while I was tiny and had wonderful experiences "unpacking their bags," building relationships and opening their hearts to inspiration and opportunities. I'm grateful for their examples. I'm also grateful for the blessings of fasting and the peace and comfort and clarity it brings to my mind and heart. I have also been inspired by a sweet book I'm currently reading - Glimpses - Into the Life and Heart of Marjorie Pay Hinckley. I think that Sister Hinckley's example of kindness, openness, being herself, only saying kind things, passionately learning all that she could and loving everyone along the way is what it means to have an open heart.

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Window to His Love

Nearly sixteen years ago I first heard the song A Windowto His Love by Julie de Azevedo. I love this song and it has affected me quite a bit over the years. The sweet and simple lyrics teach us that the purpose of our lives is to humbly point others to Christ - it's not about us, it's about Him! Because of Him we live and have hope and can live again. There is JOY now and later because of Jesus Christ and His Atonement. I'm so grateful for His love and truly want to be a "window" for others to see Him....

"I want to be a window to His love,
so when you look at me you will see Him.
I want to be so pure and clear that you won't even know I'm here,
'cause His love will shine brightly through me.

I want to be a doorway to the truth,
so when you walk beyond you will find Him.
I want to stand so straight and tall, that you won't notice me at all.
But through my open door He will be seen.

A window to His love.
A doorway to the truth.
A bearer of the message He'd have me bring to you
And with each passing day
I want to fade away.
'Till only He can be seen And I become a window to His love.

I want to be a window to His love,
so you can look through me and you'll see Him.
And some day shining through my face, you'll see His loving countenance,
'cause I will have become like He is

A window to His love.
A doorway to the truth.
A bearer of the message He'd have me bring to you
And with each passing day
I want to fade away.
'Till only He can be seen And I become...

A window to His love
A doorway to the truth.
A bearer of the message He'd have me bring to you.
And with each passing year
I want to disappear
'Till He's become ev'rything
and I've become a window to His love."



I first heard this song at EFY. I remember having a great desire for this song to describe me someday - I know I still have a long ways to go, but I remember particularly thinking about this as a missionary. When you have the blessing and privilege of spending every minute of the day teaching others about Him and His gospel message it brings great joy, but it has nothing do with you, but with Him. I enjoyed building relationships with people, but wanted to be sure that the real relationships that were developing were with the people we were talking to and the Savior, so that they then knew Him and were close to Him long after we left. :)

Recently, I have been thinking about this a little bit more. While talking to a friend at lunch I realized that there are some people that have a gift for being “windows” – working quietly and often unseen, but pointing to something wonderful and encouraging others to find Him, but I may have misunderstood part of what it means to be a “window.” While being a "window to His love," it’s important to not lose who we are in the process. We should recognize our gifts and let our unique lights SHINE! It’s not about being quiet and not sharing who you are (although that sounds easier to my introverted mind) – I think we become a reflection of Him when we are our best selves and let Him change us to what He needs us to be.

Sunday, June 2, 2013

Diligent Study

I've been inspired and reminded lately of the importance of diligent gospel study.

While reading The Chosen I was impressed by the diligent, careful memorization, discussion, and quizzing of young Jewish students studying the Talmud.  There is a part in the book where Danny Saunders works for a long time on his own to figure out the meaning of something for himself.  Then he explains it to his teacher and classmates, answering their questions with confidence.  He paid the price to learn and understand.  It reminded me of some of the things Elder Bednar teaches in Increase in Learning.

Lately, Sunday school has been a feast and I have been reminded of the importance of preparation and individual gospel study.  There is a wonderful spirit and discussion while learning at church, but there is so much more for us as we humbly and diligently and carefully ask and seek and knock on our own.  We can't just coast along, we must learn and ask for ourselves.

A couple of weeks ago, we were studying in the Doctrine & Covenants about temples and how the truths of the temple were revealed to Joseph Smith over time, a little bit at a time.  Our teacher taught the lesson from an interesting point of view, referring to recent political scandals where the questions all became, "Who knew what, when?"  :)  So, we started talking about the truths revealed to Joseph Smith about temples, thinking about how he learned along the way.  It was neat to think this way and learn from Joseph's faithful and obedient example as he asked and learned and listened and was ready to help move the Lord's work forward.  It also made me think about how important it is for me and each of us to ask and seek and learn for ourselves.  There is so much to learn.  He's willing to teach us as we prepare and ask and seek.  He will teach us as we are ready.  I think there are many things that we can only learn that way.

All of these thoughts and feelings of inspiration were solidified this week when I was reading D&C 76 and a new verse stuck out to me that then happened to be emphasized in our Sunday school class a few days later, "But great and marvelous are the works of the Lord, and the mysteries of his kingdom which he showed unto us, which surpass all understanding in glory, and in might, and in dominion; Which he commanded us we should not write while we were yet in the Spirit, and are not lawful for man to utter; Neither is man capable to make them know, for they are only to be seen and understood by the power of the Holy Spirit, which God bestows on those who love him, and purify themselves before him; To whom he grants this privilege of seeing and knowing for themselves (D&C 76:114-117)."

We can learn more about our Heavenly Father and His plan and work if we diligently study and ask. Sometimes it's the only way we can learn.  There are things that no one else can teach or explain.  We must study and learn and ponder and pray for ourselves and purify ourselves in order to learn His teachings.

I want to be more focused and diligent in my study.  As I continue to study the Doctrine & Covenants I'm excited to join family in studying the Book of Mormon this summer - STOMP (Summer Trying Out Moroni's Promise) starts today.  If you read 3 chapters a day you'll be done on August 20.  I've already gained new and wonderful insights.  I think one of the early messages of the Book of Mormon is this same thing - "see, and hear, and know of these things, by the power of the Holy Ghost, which is the gift of God unto all those who diligently seek him (see 1 Nephi 10:17)."

Friday, May 31, 2013

CTC

2013 Accomplishment #2 - So, I never got around to the engineering class last year, but I've been doing a little bit more studying this year and you're looking at (or reading a note from) one of the Travel Institute's newest Certified Travel Counselors (CTC).  :)  To finish my certification I had to write a paper about a current travel topic/issue, so I talked about the value of travel.  It's debated, especially in tough economic times, but I see great value in exploring and learning about the world around us.  Thanks to those of you who shared your thoughts and insights with me and inspired me in your travels.  I need to go plan a trip!  :)


The Value of Genuine Travel - by Heather Morgan (May 2013)
We live in an interconnected society. We can talk to people on the other side of the world instantly via email and video conferences. Nearly anyone can quickly update information for broad audiences to see and read via blogs and other websites, as well as mobile applications like Twitter and Instagram. We can simultaneously connect to multiple locations via video teleconferencing technology. We don’t have to wait for a letter or even for film to develop to learn about a friend’s trip to Europe. The world and many of its far reaches are more accessible.

But, with the ease of communication and advances in technology are we really connecting? Do we understand the world better via technology or is it a false sense of comfort and global understanding? With improved technology in the last 100 years, more people also have access to travel opportunities. Even though video conference equipment seems to improve every day, there is still something important in physically traveling to a new place and experiencing life and the culture and people firsthand, whether for business or leisure.

Mark Twain said, “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness…Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime (Twain, 1984)." Travel helps us get outside ourselves and our routines to really learn and grow. It allows us to collaborate more effectively with business partners and build meaningful relationships by meeting face-to-face.

A July 2012 New York Times Opinionator article entitled "Reclaiming Travel" refers to "genuine travel" stating that "the humility required for genuine travel is exactly what is missing from…tourism (Ellison & Stavans, 2012)." Genuine travel means taking advantage of opportunities around us to learn and seeking out new opportunities to explore and challenge stereotypes we may have created in our minds in order to really understand the world.

There are costs to travel, but there are also great benefits to individuals, companies and communities. Considering the costs and the benefits helps illustrate the value genuine travel creates for individuals and society today. Traveling can be inconvenient and uncomfortable, but when we carefully prepare and humbly seek to learn, travel is invaluable.

Costs of Travel
The costs of travel may seem obvious. Travel can be expensive. It takes time and it may be hard to find like-minded travel companions. Depending on where we're going and how we're getting there traveling can be uncomfortable and difficult.

Money. Travel innovations today provide greater opportunities and methods of travel to more destinations, but it can be expensive. Often oil and gas are one of the most expensive considerations. Airlines continue to add baggage and other fees to cover their costs.

In difficult economic times business travel budgets are often closely scrutinized and are the first to be cut. Travel can be seen as unnecessary compared to other programs or business needs, particularly as new video conferencing equipment improves. But, when considering the case for business travel a 2009 report sponsored by the U.S. Travel Association provides an interesting insight on costs. The report concludes that “curbing business travel can reduce a company’s profits for years….The average business in the U.S. would forfeit 17 percent of its profits in the first year of eliminating business travel (Noel, 2010).”

David Danto, Director of Emerging Technology, says “Travel is a necessary evil of business.  It doesn’t go away.  To be successful people need to see clients, inspect facilities, spend quality time with colleagues and bridge cultures.  Investing in collaboration technologies just to reduce travel spend shows more naivety than savvy (Danto, 2012).

Leisure travel can be prohibitively expensive for many people, but it’s something that people plan for and prioritize. Many people are motivated to sacrifice and save money for travel experiences and memories – giving up other things like new furniture, clothes, or other tangible possessions and comforts.

Time. Finding time to travel can be a challenge for many people. Depending on how far you’re going it may include multiple connecting flights, rest stops or time changes. A simple two-hour meeting in a neighboring state easily becomes a full day trip. It can be a distraction and hassle if you have to spend too much time on the road, but travel time may allow for extra quiet time out of the office to get other work done.

There have also been many studies that show a correlation between increased creativity when traveling and living abroad. In a March 2010 article in The Guardian, Johan Lehrer notes, “When we escape from the place we spend most of our time, the mind is suddenly made aware of all those errant ideas we'd suppressed. We start thinking about obscure possibilities – corn can fuel cars – that never would have occurred to us if we'd stayed back on the farm (Lehrer, 2010).”

When traveling for leisure, accommodating school and work schedules can be difficult. Many people find time to travel on weekends or during holiday breaks. Time off schedules can also make it hard to find travel companions, let alone travel companions who are interested in the same travel adventures as you. There are some seasons of life when traveling is more convenient and enjoyable than others, but traveling together with family or friends of all ages creates important memories and shared experiences.

Comfort. Going someplace new can be uncomfortable. Security checks, delayed flights, and hours confined to the tiny space of an economy seat on an airport are the beginning, but not knowing where to go or how to use the public transportation system can also cause stress. This can be more difficult if you don’t speak the native language, although facial expressions and hand gestures can sometimes be quite effective.

Additionally, some areas can be or might seem dangerous and difficult to get to. It can be frightening to be in an unfamiliar area. Even if it is a safe location, traveling takes you out of your regular routine and gets you off schedule and living at a different pace – sometimes faster, sometimes slower. But that is also one of the reasons travel is so important – new places and a new routine help us stretch ourselves, giving us the opportunity to learn and think differently than if we were to stay home. In a quote often attributed to Mark Twain we are reminded, “Twenty years from now [we] will be more disappointed by the things [we] didn't do than by the ones [we] did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Benefits of Travel
After considering the costs, there are even more benefits to travel. Traveling is rejuvenating. It helps us learn and grow. Traveling helps us build and strengthen relationships through shared experiences. It also helps us broaden our view.

Rejuvenating. An opportunity to travel can be exciting and rejuvenating – it’s something to look forward to. It opens our eyes to new scenes and experiences – even the simple and unexpected stops or sights along the way to our destination. Chances to get out of our normal routine help us relax and think differently. It gives us time away from the normal busyness of life to focus on those we are with and appreciate them and the new experiences and world around us. It can also be a way to celebrate a special occasion.

In her book Happier at Home, Gretchen Rubin says, “People who travel to new places and try new things are happier than those who stick only to the familiar. New experiences stroke imagination. I get fresh ideas and creative energy from traveling, even if I don’t particularly look forward to doing it (Rubin, 2012, p. 219)."

Learning. There is so much to learn by visiting a new place, beginning with the initial planning and preparations. We can read books, watch videos, study websites and talk to friends to prepare for our trip. Our preparations will help us feel more comfortable while we’re there, but nothing can compare to actually hiking along the Great Wall of China, shopping at a local market in Ghana, taking a tram ride to a village at the top of the Alps in Switzerland, biking by the windmills of Kinderdijk or watching the sunset over the Lincoln Memorial in Washington DC.

Seeing and experiencing a new location and culture firsthand helps us come to know and understand things that we couldn't have reading, listening or watching TV or videos. It allows us to interact with the people, the culture and the natural environment. By feeling the breeze, smelling the smells, tasting the food, seeing the surroundings and interacting with people we have a great opportunity to learn and understand much more than we would staying home.

Ultimately, new situations help us learn about ourselves and even change our attitudes and behaviors. We learn gratitude as we enjoy and explore the grandeur and diversity of nature. We gain a new appreciation for items we miss when we're away or objects and ideas that we see for the first time. We learn new historical and geographic facts. We gain confidence in ourselves and our knowledge of the world around us. We may even become more adventurous and courageous in the process. We appreciate the connections we share with others and become more accepting and less judgmental. Afterwards, the pictures and memories stay with us, reminding us of the meaningful experiences, fun times and lessons learned.

Building Relationships. Traveling is not just a destination, but a process and a chance to connect with other people. There is so much to learn from the other people we travel with or visit. Traveling for business provides improved opportunities for collaboration, creativity, problem solving and better working relationships as we interact with co-workers one-on-one. In an August 2012 article called “Virtual Realities” Jason Chudnofsky, a frontrunner in technology business events, admits, “Virtual technology is simply a tool for augmenting time-honored strategies for connecting people (Heilman, 2012, p. 30).”

A recent study conducted by the IMEX Group also confirmed that participants in face-to-face meetings generated significantly more ideas of higher quality when compared to those meeting virtually (Alderton, 2013). Jill Smart, chief of human resources at Accenture agrees, “You don’t learn about other cultures in telepresence. You get things from being there, over breakfast and dinner, building relationships face to face (Lohr, 2008).”

Similarly, leisure travel gives us the chance to get to know people better and strengthen relationships as we spend consistent time with them and watch how they respond to new experiences. We are bound to people that we spend 24 hours with on a sleeper train across China or 12 hours with in a car on our way to Disneyland. There might not be a better way to build a relationship with someone than spending a full day hiking 25 miles through the beautiful Grand Teton National Park. Shared experiences with family, friends and even strangers can build relationships and memories.

The destination is an important part of the trip, but the journey and chances to build relationships and learn along the way are just as valuable. We can learn a lot observing fellow travelers and strangers, stopping at a new gas station, or getting on a different bus. It gives us the chance to see things through others’ eyes – those we are visiting, those we are traveling with and those we meet along the way. Watching a child experience the smells and sounds of a new place help us see life more simply from a whole new perspective.

Broadening Views. All of these opportunities to learn help broaden our view of the world. If more people had the opportunity to travel and had a desire to learn about others, society as a whole would be more sympathetic and understanding of others, breaking down stereotypes and ignorance of beliefs and cultures around the world. Traveling helps us get outside ourselves and connect with others, fundamentally changing us.

Seeing different societies and circumstances can help us understand that we are all more similar than we might think at first glance. There is great diversity in landscapes and culture, but everyone everywhere wants to love and be loved. They want to be treated with respect and dignity and feel connected to others. They want to be friendly and hospitable and provide well for themselves and their families. They want to feel important and needed. People are generally good and want to help others.

We gain confidence in ourselves and others and a greater ability and motivation to love other people and give and serve. The places we visit become a part of us and give us a broader perspective of history, geography, culture and relationships. These experiences inspire us and give us direction.

As we learn and grow individually and gain a broader perspective of different places and paradigms, we can make the world a better place because of our new understanding, increased gratitude and desire to connect with and help others. Aric Queen shares an insightful list of “10 Easy Steps on How to Be a Good Traveler” that includes ideas for giving back and building relationships and good feelings as we travel. In order to be a good traveler we should stop acting like we know and ask taxi drivers to point things out. We should get off the interstate, talk to people sitting next to us and send post cards instead of emails (Queen, 2012).

Recently J.W. Marriott Jr., executive chair of the board of Marriott International, shared results of a survey of "opinion leaders and global travelers in China, India, Europe and the United States" reporting that “people believe international travel is more important than the internet, TV, movies or political diplomacy for breaking down cultural barriers. Eight out of ten said the more people experience other countries and cultures, the more peace will spread (Marriott Jr., 2012)."

Value of Travel
Life is a journey. We are here to learn. Traveling helps us find ourselves, build meaningful relationships and understand the world around us. We spend much of our time traveling, whether we like it or not, but as we open ourselves up to chances to learn we never know what we will find or who we will meet. There is a lot to gain by traveling and genuinely seeking to understand new people and places. There are even lessons to learn from the hassles. “Travel is a search for meaning, not only in our own lives, but also in the lives of others (Ellison & Stavans, 2012).”

Building relationships and learning about the world and its people and places are even more important in the interconnected global environment that we live in now. It can change who we are and positively influence society as well. We may live in an increasingly virtual world, but genuine travel is a valuable opportunity to get outside ourselves and our routine and be real – interacting with those around us and smelling the roses along the way.

Pico Iyer says, “We travel, initially, to lose ourselves; and we travel, next, to find ourselves. We travel to open our hearts and eyes and learn more about the world than our newspapers will accommodate. We travel to bring what little we can, in our ignorance and knowledge, to those parts of the globe whose riches are differently dispersed. And we travel…to slow time down and get taken in, and fall in love once more (Iyer, 2000).”


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Thursday, March 14, 2013

Contentment = Following God's Plan

I am more content than I have been for a long time.  I thought a lot about contentment and I think I've learned a few things lately.  Life has not happened as I would have guessed in many ways, but I am grateful for the Lord's love and guidance and I know that He knows me and has a plan for me - a better plan than I have or could create for myself.  Lately my current path has been made a little more clear.  I know where I need to be and what I need to be doing.  This is a wonderful feeling!  Not much else matters, I think.


Sister Rosemary Wixom spoke at the BYU Devotional last week about The Covenant Path, essentially making decisions and creating our life.  She said, "You are progressing with your plan.  You have a purpose in mind.  Can you see the Lord's hand in your life?  Can you see the path you took to get here?....It's simple really....I will follow God's plan for me."

Those are familiar words, but when I stop to think about that it's profound - we don't worry about comparing our lives to others or even comparing them to what we had in mind for ourselves.  We work hard and have faith and follow God's plan and direction each day.  It's an exciting adventure each step of the way, really.  You never know what's going to come next, but I know that as we do our best to trust and follow Him we will be happy....content.  :)

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Who Built It?

One of the catch phrases of the day has been on my mind lately - "You didn't build that."  "You built that."  :)  You probably know what I'm referring to and may be tired of all the talk.  I've got to say, I believe in hard work, responsibility, the importance of individual ambition and incentives that encourage innovation and the chance for every individual to pursue their dreams.  There is great satisfaction and much heartache in working hard to create something, and I think that work ethnic needs to be encouraged, but I don't think either of these statements are quite right.

I thought this was an interesting article in the the New York Times on this topic - The Credit Illusion.

I think there needs to be more humility in each response.  After all, all that we have and are comes from God.  I know that's not a popular political conversation of the day, but there's not much that we can do completely on our own.  We should be ready and willing to share the credit and build teams that work together for the common good.  It's not about us!  I think as a society, in general, we care too much about who gets the credit.  To reach solutions and find real success we need to care less about who gets the credit and more about doing the right thing and getting things done that will help others.  As Harry Truman said, "It's amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit."

In order for anything good to happen we need to be willing to take an individual initiative to get something done and humbly work with others to accomplish something meaningful - after all "if you build it they will come."  :)

I think this is another interesting article - Why Can't we Sell Charity like we Sell Perfume?  It's not totally related, but I think it's along a similar line.  How do we work together to build effective nonprofit organizations that will help to make difference for good?

Note:  If you're worried at all about my political statements here wait for my post coming soon of 12+ reasons for why I'm voting for Mitt Romney.  :)

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Motivation

I've had a hard time being motivated this week....justifying a really early bedtime as still needing to catch up from a weekend of travel and not getting much else done the other days of the week either after long days at work.  Not okay!  At least I ended the week with a to-do list.  :)  I guess it's good to cut ourselves some slack every once in a while and not run faster than we have strength, but I better get my strength back soon and have some desire to do something with my life.  :)

I'm grateful for music and have been inspired by some great songs and words today:
There is urgent work to do....vacation's over!  :)  Everything I heard and thought about today really is who I am and desperately want to be....praying for the motivation to be better tomorrow!  :)

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Champions, Heroes, Dreams.....

I've been thinking a lot about champions, heroes, dreams, ambition, passion, vision, and determination lately.  Probably we all have.  It's exciting to watch people work hard and reach their dreams.  It's fun to see people cheer for each other.  It's hard to not get emotional watching the accomplishment and heartache.  (I can't find any good clips to share....you kind of have to be there in the moment, you know?  And we each probably have a different moment that speaks to us and our passions and dreams.)  :)

At the same time I'm trying to figure out what the healthy amount of pressure might be in these situations and life in general.  :)  It's good to push ourselves and strive for the very best, but we can't be too hard on ourselves.  We need to keep things in perspective and remember that the people and relationships along the way and chances to learn and progress are the most important.  ("I'm sorry that you're stressed....Don't do too much thinking.")  :)

I'm inspired watching others work towards and accomplish their dreams (Michael Phelps-19 Olympic medals (with a few more events to go)!!!, Missy Franklin, the Fabulous Five)!  But you don't have to be an Olympian to be a hero!  Here are a few other heroes I've thought about lately:  Jon Blunk, Alex Teves, and Matt McQuinn, my AMAZING dad who is currently (day 5) chasing his dream of riding his bike across the USA (and my wonderful mom who's supporting him all along the way), social entrepreneurs and like-minded folks (<-- GREAT article!!!), talented musicians (this video and music is SO cool!), those sharing their faith, and leaders who give their all -- Captain Moroni is one I'm currently reading about and some others in the modern day that I'm getting to know.  :)

For a moment as I was watching history and dreams being fulfilled at the Aquatic Center in London, I wondered....why didn't I spend my life really swimming to be that good?  What have I been doing with my time?  Why didn't I spend more time practicing my flute?  :)  But, we can all be champions, heroes, dreamers.  There's something for each of us to accomplish.  Michael Phelps (talking about one of his heroes, Michael Jordan), said, "That's what champions do....You're there to take care of the job you have to do."  To me that says, be the best you!  :)  Work hard.  Learn what you're here to do and do it well.  :)  I think I'm still on the path of figuring out what I'm here to do, but there have been some great learning opportunities along the way and many fun things to do on the side.

I'm grateful and inspired watching others do good and I'm more determined to discover and work for my dreams.....and work towards being a champion or hero.  What are your dreams?  What do you want to accomplish?  :)  Who are the champions and heroes that inspire you?

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Passing it on....

I LOVE the Olympics!  I love watching people from around the world gather together with shared dreams and excitement and understanding for each other.  In some ways it seems like the problems of the world fade away for a couple of weeks as we all cheer for each other and watch people reach dreams they have worked their lifetimes to achieve.

I love watching people from so many nations walk into the stadium together filled with excitement and hope.  I love the peace and friendship and togetherness exhibited.  I'm inspired by the hard word and passion and determination of the athletes.  I'm inspired by how they push themselves and each other to be even better than before.  

Watching the opening ceremonies this time I was also inspired by those who come to cheer on their fellow men or even to watch the path the torch takes to get to the games.  The flame comes from Greece and is passed from person to person -- extraordinary and ordinary people from around the country and world who each have a story and dreams of their own.  This is a great legacy and symbol of passing on something important through generations--spreading the hope, dreams, passions, and togetherness.  There is a lot of tradition and legacy and heritage (which reminds me of the recent Pioneer Day celebrations too).


Today in Sunday School our teacher drew a neat parallel to this passing of the torch.  We were studying Alma 36-38 where Alma is teaching his sons and imparting his final words of advice.  He's leaving his wisdom and legacy.  He loves his sons and gave very specific and important advice to each one:
  • joy comes through Christ
  • preach repentance
  • be meek and lowly in heart
  • counsel with the Lord in all your doings
  • give heed to the words of Christ
  • don't be slothful
  • take care of sacred things
  • look to God and live
  • out of small things come great things
  • trust in the Lord
  • keep the commandments
  • be steady and faithful
  • be patient; the Lord is with thee
  • be diligent, be temperate
  • do not boast in your own wisdom or strength; don't be lifted up in pride
  • be bold, but not overbearing
  • bridle your passions that ye may be filled with love
  • do not pray to be heard of men
What are you passing on?  :)